Love should be based on trust and respect.
The love that the god of the bible is offering has conditions.
The tree in the garden of eden placed before Adam and eve, eat from it and die ,if you truly loved someone would you put a test before them .NO .
Through out the bible god gives laws and conditions to his chosen nation often described as his wife about how they should conduct themselves and even how they should dress a certain way to identify as different from the nations around them as a condition of remaining his chosen people, he actually describes himself as a jealous god ,and gives them numerous rules to live by so they would not lose his love for them.
In the jesus story he tells people that they should disown their parents brothers and sisters and even their children and follow him as a way to show that they love him. (Abusive and controlling people do that to people that they claim to love )
So by jesus/god putting conditions that you have to be born again and love him in a certain way is not love based upon trust and respect but on conditions that you have to follow.
It makes jesus/god a narcissist who demands that people love him or suffer the consequences, he uses physiological manipulation and coercive control over his victims and if you disagree or leave him you will suffer the consequences eg suffer in hell ,whatever that is.